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Dear, please let me know what you are thinking

Recently, my friend Miss J is deeply troubled by marriage! It affects the mood and pace of life. She is the only girl in the family who lives with her mother. Her boyfriend has been filial to her mother who is recovering from stroke like half a child. My mother’s dependence and possession on Miss J is unspeakable. Her boyfriend and she both shoulder heavy responsibilities and pressure. Even the problem of where the new house should be placed after marriage also leads to the contradiction between the two families! Yesterday, Miss J left a message in my mailbox, telling her full grievance and bitterness, and suddenly she didn’t want to get married! Because I sent a text message to my boyfriend at 10 o’clock at night: “I am so tired recently! I want to have a good rest! If one day I am naughty, please forgive me! 』 A simple message, in fact, Miss J just wants to play coquetry, because all the pressure and troubles her boyfriend should understand! The boyfriend called and asked, “What’s wrong? 』 Miss J said, “Nothing! Just want to express your emotions! 』 My boyfriend said, “I have been very tired since I worked. I asked you and said nothing! Otherwise, what do you want? 』 In this way, she thought her boyfriend should know her difficulties and thoughts, and Miss J cried bitterly until she fell asleep! My boyfriend may be really tired! Work pressure is also high! Plus, I love Miss J because I know her pain, but I can’t help her! Or when I was in a good mood, I just received a strange text message from Miss J…, two people who loved each other, because of a text message and a careless reply, so I felt angry all night! In fact, such misunderstandings are often seen among lovers, and lack of communication is the most important key. Different brain structures between men and women lead to different thoughts and thoughts. Studies often say that men can have sex first and then love, but women cannot! (Of course, they are increasingly dissatisfied with the current social phenomena), there was once a book, “Why do men lie? Do women cry? 』 There are incisive explanations; Men can use any excuse and reason to rationalize their improper behavior, while women like narrow-minded comparison, temptation and even use tears to attack to gain sympathy, compassion and care. Time and I have fallen in love with each other so far, there are almost few quarrels. When something unpleasant happens, we communicate with each other immediately and speak clearly. If there is any problem, we will solve it immediately and say that there is no overnight anger! Until they accept each other and even apologize to each other! Accept each other’s statements, reasons and understand each other’s thoughts and thoughts, and then learn to correct and progress. If two people can go for a long time, they must be able to learn and grow together. It doesn’t matter if there are shortcomings, improvement! Miss J and her boyfriend didn’t try to understand each other’s thoughts or clarify because of the relationship between time and current emotions, so misunderstanding came into being. Of course, men’s brains are very simple! On that day, I may only feel that Miss J is bored, and I still send a text message to make a mess! Go home and take a bath and sleep may forget! I don’t think Miss J will be sad and shed tears, and I don’t know that Miss J may be angry or even decide not to marry! Of course, women’s thoughts are not simple. Why doesn’t he understand my feelings? Why do I just want to be coquetry? He doesn’t understand? Why should I be angry! …. In fact, if only the other party does not understand this coquetry method, then change the coquetry method! But if you just don’t know each other’s thoughts at present, then communicate quickly! Only with a calm attitude to communicate, otherwise angry words and decisions are often hurtful! Impulse is the devil. Today, Miss J and her boyfriend had a sincere talk and communication on the phone, and the problem seemed to be solved. Still decide not to marry? Miss J smiled. Therefore, I say that decisions made in anger or emotion are often impulsive, and people are not sages. We all have this experience! Only by learning and growing in experience, after every adjustment, make progress more than once, learn to control your emotional pace, or take a deep breath by counting to ten when trying your emotions. Don’t let each other’s love wear out because of misunderstanding.

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